It's National Coming Out Day
When a student shares their gender identity or sexual orientation, it is a brave and meaningful moment. It may feel exciting, emotional, or even a little nerve-racking. The most important thing is to respond with care, respect, and warmth. Here are some ways to do that:
- Thank them for sharing. Let the student know how much you appreciate their trust. A simple, “Thank you for telling me,” can mean a lot.
- Give space. Often our first instinct is to ask questions, but it’s best to start by listening. Allow the student to share as much—or as little—as they feel comfortable with.
- Ask gentle, affirming questions. If the moment feels right, you might ask: “Do you feel safe at school? At home?” or “Is there a name or pronouns you’d like me to use?” These questions show acceptance and care.
- Respect confidentiality. You may be the very first person they’ve told. Let them know you will keep what they’ve shared private unless they ask you to share it with others.
- Offer support. Ask if they would like any help, resources, or next steps. Remind them that there are safe adults and resources available, such as the school’s SOGI rep, who can provide additional support.
Click here to read more about how you can support youth coming out.
Additional Resources
2SLGBTQI Terms and Definitions
Affirming and Inclusive Language