SOGI Snippet: Reflections on the Importance of Chosen Family

Belonging isn't something we wait for - it's something we create together. For many in the 2SLGBTQIA+ community, chosen family isn’t just love; it’s safety, grounding, and harm reduction. It’s the network that shows up, checks in, shares meals, and makes space for all the parts of us that deserve to be seen. If you're an ally, one of the most powerful things you can offer is simple, consistent presence. May this season remind us that family is defined not by tradition, but by care — and that none of us ever have to navigate the world alone.

Gift Giving

Here are a few tips on gift giving for friends and loved ones:

1. Ask for ideas when you can.

Asking isn't awkward; it is often the most affirming way to show respect and can help avoid assumptions.

2. De-gender the gift options.

Focus on interests, aesthetics, hobbies, and needs rather than relying on labels like “men’s” or “women’s.” 

3. Respect names, pronouns, and presentation.

If you’re giving anything personalized (like monogrammed items or art), make sure you’re using the person’s correct name and pronouns. This is a powerful form of affirmation in itself.

4. Avoid intimate gender affirming gifts unless invited.

For trans and nonbinary people, gifts like binders, tucking garments, packers, bras, makeup, etc. can be incredibly affirming—but only when the person has expressed interest. These are deeply personal items, and giving them without invitation, even with good intentions, can create discomfort.

5. When in doubt, gift experiences or gift cards.

Gift cards let people choose what feels right for their body, identity, or style—and avoids misgendering through clothing sizes or presentation-related items. Experiences and especially time spent together is always a win!